How can i stop being self conscious with my current fiance due to my ex boyfriends *** ups?

My ex boyfriend molested a lil girl, and now i keep being selfconscious with my current fiance, how can i stop?


i hate making him feel bad when hes not doing anything wrong, hes so not that type of person... i just get a queery feeling everytime i see him around children even his own neices and nephews... and he never did anything!!!!!!!!!! (my ex did)





HELPHow can i stop being self conscious with my current fiance due to my ex boyfriends *** ups?
Well you have a bit of post trauma stress going on. For quite a while i had situations with my wife that would occur and i would flash back to the same situation with my ex. She would remind me Paul im not your ex. Give it a while it will get easier.How can i stop being self conscious with my current fiance due to my ex boyfriends *** ups?
well first off you know he didn't do it. so ask your self what makes you think your current dude is doing that? if nothing then you need to pick your own battles a real one or one you made up in your head because you can't seem to get your ex's mess ups out of your head.





also if you let someone control how you feel you'll never have your own feelings. Why let your ex control how you feel. more so when it's effecting your current sisutation.





Ask yourself why accept it and move on ... Focus on what you want.





If this issue doesn't stop with what people have suggested for you to try then you have to get yourself real help. it's not healthy living life like that!
Sounds like you might need to go for a few sessions with a therapist. I know I had some of these feelings after we found out my BIL molested his step-daughter. I suddenly saw all men like that. If you are going to marry this man then you are going to probably have children with him. You want to view him in a positive light.