So, I am on the 3rd day of my NC status....Was wondering how long does it take for me 'disappearing' to hit them, making them realise that without me in their life would be boring and they would try to contact me. I sent this text to him: I have some big decisions to make and need some time to think about them..so I think for the time being dun contact me, i'll be in touch with you when i'm ready. He immediately replied,';why? Going for another guy already?'; What does it tell u when he says that? I prefer those who are experienced in the NC status to give me answers.I'm on No Contact with my ex, how long do I have to wait to contact him?
Doesn't seem like he's an ex to me, more like you're on a break. Why would you want to contact your ex?I'm on No Contact with my ex, how long do I have to wait to contact him?
I'm currently in the same situation as you. But I've been in it before, and it sure as hell is not nice. The ''going for another guy already?'' sounds exactly like my ''ex''. It suggests he's angry or overly jealous at the fact you're not spending all of your time pussy footing about him. This is a sign that he has underlying issues with trust or jealousy. He likes the attention you give him, I mean who doesn't like the feeling of being wanted - needed even, so doesn't want that back up to be taken away. Anyway, back to the no contact rule. It really depends how hung up on you this guy is for the no contact rule to work. In my case, my 'ex' said he didn't know what he wants from the relationship. I was sick of being his door mat, and feeling like crap because of his indecisiveness, so breaking up with him and using the no contact rule seems the only plausible way of forgetting about him. I've used no contact with him before and it honestly only took a week for him to come crawling back. But you need to think - do you really want him back ? If you are only using the no contact rule to see his reaction, if so then it's not likely to work properly. I know how much this hurts, seriously. But after a while of no contact, you will realise what your relationship was really like, without judging it based on how much you miss him. I suggest you give it 2 weeks of no contact. If you feel like you are starting to move on, or making any emotional progress at all, stick with it. I gave in to it before, and now I'm in the same position I was in last time. No contact is seriously very difficult, but if it means that it will open up your eyes to what you really want from this guy, it definitely worth it. Stay strong !
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